There have been many moments when my heart has been broken. And with each heart break, deep pain. I hated that feeling and wanted it to go away ASAP. But every time I allowed myself to feel the hurt, there was also a release. A relief. But, like many people, sometimes I just didn’t want to feel the pain. It was just too much to bear. 

I found later on though, that I can handle releasing small bits at a time. And eventually, like working out a muscle almost, I became a little stronger at holding difficult feelings.

Nowadays, when heartache comes for whatever reason, I’ve learned to get curious about it instead of pushing it away or trying to ignore it. 

‘Oh hi Grief, what are you doing here in my heart? You feel really uncomfortable and heavy in me right now…and that’s ok. Is there something you want me to know?’

Learning how to dialogue with the hard feelings allows them to flow more freely. It’s energy – getting a chance to move. (As you’ve probably heard, Emotion = Energy in Motion). 

Imagine a hurt child, or one having a tantrum. There’s a lot of emotion there, a lot of energy. Putting the child in a room and closing the door does not help. It would only exacerbate how they feel. But asking the child questions about how they’re feeling may help a whole heck of a lot. 

Same thing with our own emotions. Getting curious and asking these emotions questions can allow them to flow instead of being suppressed.

‘What do you need from me?’

‘What do you want me to know?’

Try this next time and see what happens. It may open up a whole new door for you.

This is why your heart breaking is like a rite of passage in your soul’s evolution.